Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Top Signs to Look Out For

Are you feeling like your relationship is more about your partner's needs and desires than your own? It's possible you might be involved with a narcissist. Understanding the signs of narcissism is crucial for maintaining your emotional well-being. At Soledad House, we recognize the importance of recognizing these signs and offer support for those affected by narcissistic relationships.

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism is a personality disorder characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. Understanding the common symptoms and examples of narcissism can help you recognize the signs in your partner.

Common Symptoms of Narcissism:

  • Exaggerated Sense of Self-Importance: Narcissists often exaggerate their achievements and talents, believing they are superior to others.
  • Constant Need for Admiration: They crave constant validation and admiration from others to maintain their fragile self-esteem.
  • Lack of Empathy: Narcissists struggle to understand or empathize with the feelings and needs of others, often dismissing them as insignificant.
  • Sense of Entitlement: They believe they are entitled to special treatment and privileges, expecting others to cater to their needs and desires.
  • Manipulative Behavior: Narcissists often use manipulation and deceit to control others and get what they want.
  • Difficulty Maintaining Relationships: Due to their self-centered nature and lack of empathy, narcissists often struggle to maintain healthy relationships.
  • Envy and Jealousy: They may feel threatened by others’ success and often react with envy or jealousy.
  • Arrogant and Haughty Attitude: Narcissists have a grandiose view of themselves and may exhibit arrogant or condescending behavior towards others.
Is Your Partner a Narcissist?

Common Examples of Narcissistic Behavior:

  • Constantly Talking About Themselves: Narcissists dominate conversations and often steer them back to themselves, showing little interest in others’ experiences or feelings.
  • Taking Credit for Others’ Achievements: They may exaggerate their role in accomplishments or take credit for others’ work to boost their own ego.
  • Belittling Others: Narcissists may belittle or demean others to elevate themselves, using insults or criticism to maintain a sense of superiority.
  • Lack of Accountability: They rarely accept responsibility for their mistakes or failures, instead blaming others or making excuses.
  • Exploiting Others for Personal Gain: Narcissists may manipulate or exploit others to fulfill their own needs or desires, without regard for the other person’s well-being.
  • Seeking Attention and Validation: They constantly seek attention and validation from others through social media, extravagant displays, or attention-seeking behavior.
  • Idealizing and Devaluing Relationships: Narcissists may idealize others in the beginning stages of a relationship, but quickly devalue them once they no longer serve their needs or meet their expectations.


Recognizing these symptoms and examples can help you identify narcissistic behavior in your partner and take steps to protect your emotional well-being.

Risks of Being Emotionally Involved with a Narcissist

Being in a relationship with a narcissist can have serious emotional consequences. Some risks include:

  • Emotional Manipulation: Narcissists often manipulate their partners to get what they want, leading to feelings of confusion and self-doubt.
  • Gaslighting: They may invalidate your feelings and experiences, making you question your own reality.
  • Isolation: Narcissists may try to isolate you from friends and family, leaving you feeling isolated and dependent on them.
  • Emotional Abuse: Constant criticism, belittling, and insults are common tactics used by narcissists to maintain control.
  • Lack of Emotional Intimacy: Despite appearing charming initially, narcissists struggle to form deep emotional connections with others, leaving their partners feeling emotionally neglected.


 If you suspect you are in a relationship with a narcissist, seeking support from a therapist or counselor can provide guidance and assistance in navigating the complexities of the situation. Remember, you deserve to be in a healthy and supportive relationship.

Possible Treatments for Narcissism

While narcissism can be challenging to treat, there are options available for those seeking help:

  • Therapy: Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) can help narcissists develop empathy and healthier coping mechanisms.
  • Support Groups: Joining a support group can provide validation and support from others who have experienced similar relationships.
  • Self-Reflection: Encouraging the narcissist to engage in self-reflection and introspection can lead to personal growth and change.
  • Setting Boundaries: Establishing clear boundaries in the relationship is essential for protecting your own well-being.
  • Individual and Couples Counseling: Seeking professional help can provide guidance and support for both partners in navigating the complexities of a narcissistic relationship.

Seek Support at Soledad House

If you’re struggling in a relationship with a narcissist, remember that you’re not alone. Soledad House offers comprehensive support and treatment for individuals affected by narcissistic relationships. Contact us today to learn more about our IOP and PHP services in San Diego, CA.


While change is possible, it often requires the narcissist to be willing to engage in therapy and commit to personal growth.
It’s challenging but not impossible. However, it requires both partners to be committed to open communication and setting healthy boundaries.
Look out for signs such as constant criticism, manipulation, lack of empathy, and a focus on the narcissist’s needs over your own.
Seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate your relationship and explore your options.
It depends on the severity of the situation and your own well-being. In some cases, leaving may be necessary for your emotional health and safety.

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